Have you ever had this experience? You were talking to a woman after you just made a great approach, things are going great, and then suddenly she gets really angry at you? It seemed to come out of nowhere, and you walk away shaking your head trying to understand what the hell just happened.

This is all too common for guys who are just learning pickup. The good news is, it’s only a stage in the learning curve. In a minute, I’ll tell you the secret that will prevent this from happening, and you’ll find it makes it easy to transition to rapport as well.

But first, let’s take a look at what’s going on that causes this to happen, it’s important.

Now, if you have been paying attention, you know I teach about how girl-attraction really works, you need to be a cool guy. Thing is, the so called ’naturals’ learned how to be a cool guy, a guy who is good with women, at a fairly young age. They had success with women early on, and each success gave them more confidence as they grew up, till it became a ’natural’ part of their behavior.

Stick with me, I’m going somewhere with this.

If you are not one of those men who is good with women, then early in life you likely experienced failures with women. Each failure reinforced that you were not good with women. You got to a point where it became a part of your internal programming that you were not a cool guy. That these other ’alpha’ men get the women and you didn’t (at least not the hoties you are attracted to). The key word here is that you internalized it.

You see, our bodies know when we make an attempt to be cooler than we know we are. That’s the source of the fear and anxiety you get when you approach women. It’s a very real fear. Anyone that tells you it’s all in your mind is full of crap!

The reason that fear is there is because historically if you tried to move above your place in the pecking order, you would get beat up or killed.

Watch the Discovery channel next time they have a special on the great apes, and you’ll see this in action.

Our bodies are programmed to protect us, and if you attempt to move out of your social status, to be a cooler guy and have sex with the women normally only the alpha guy has sex with… You experience a very real feeling of fear. This is hard wired into your brain.

Now I’m not telling you this to scare you or discourage you. In our modern society, you can change your social status with no threat to your safety. You just have to realize why the fear is there, and accept it as part of the learning process. In fact, when you feel this fear it’s a sign you are on the right path to being a cooler guy. Use this feeling as your guide as you perfect your skills.

So, what has this got to do with a woman getting angry at you?

Well a woman has her own genetic program running. Her program is to constantly be looking for that one guy she is supposed to have sex with. She’s looking for signals from each man around her, that he is that guy. This is where things get fun and interesting. Because you are now learning how to give off those signals.

My definition of a cool guy, is a man who just by the way he is being, triggers her hard wired circuits that say to her…

«Hey, I’m that guy you are supposed to sleeep with»

When she responds to your signals… that my friend is attraction! And I promise you, if you are practicing what I teach you, there are women who are attracted to

you daily that you are not even aware of. We see this all the time in workshops.

But here’s the rub, and the reason why women will get very upset with a guy who is just learning pickup…

Men starting down the path to becoming a cool guy, do it in small increments. The first 10 seconds, the first minute, the first 3 minutes, first 10 minutes… you get the picture.

So what happens is, when a guy knows how to make a kick ass first impression and is solid on opening, the woman’s wiring says «It’s that guy I’m supposed to have sex with» and it’s on! But then new guy sinks back into his normal way of being (some people call this running out of material, but that implies you can continue to ’fool’ her just by having things to say)

At this point the woman will sense something is wrong. It will be very weird for her, because in the regular world men are either «that guy» or they are not. It does not happen for her, that a man is «that guy» in a powerful way, and then suddenly he isn’t anymore.

This never happened in the world until guys like you started learning pickup skills.

This will cause her to get angry, and feel deceived, because she wanted you to be that guy, and she is bummed because she was attracted to you. Fact is, this is a good thing when it happens to you, it means you are making huge progress. You just don’t want to have it continue to happen, because that means you are stuck.

So, what’s the key step to prevent this from happening? The secret is called «Vibing».

If you have seen the hidden camera video of my festival pickup, you saw me ’vibing’ with the girl and her friends. The key to vibing is showing that you mix well with the group… the woman and her friends. That you are a leader but in a cool and laid back way, and that you are fun to be with. If you have friends you hang out with, you know how to vibe.

Vibing is powerful because unlike opening lines and stories, it’s authentic… you can’t fake it. That’s why it is so important for you to have your own style when meeting women. Every single one of my instructors has his own unique style. There are no ’clones’ at PickUp 101 for a very good reason.

The best way for you to get good at vibing is to practice with your friends. Take control and be the most fun guy in the conversation. Use the tools I’ve taught you. When you get good, then practice at parties with people you sort of know. Then do it with people you don’t know.

Before long, it will be a natural part of what you do. Congratulations you are on your way to being a cool guy!

Now, go meet some women.

Your Friend,
Lance Mason

P.S.: If you really want to dig into how Vibing works, you can learn it from the absolute masters: Zan, J-Dog, Danial Johnson, Eric Monse, Decker, Grant Adams and others.

P.P.S.: Can’t make it to San Francisco? I go into details on how to vibe naturally and confidently in my Surefire Attraction Secrets program. Never again wonder what to say to a women!

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