When a man who has had limited success with women first embarks on his journey to improve his success with women, he faces many different hurdles. The fear that accompanies approaching and engaging women he doesn’t know is tough for many men; the task of learning to be confident and at ease handling infinite varieties of social scenarios can appear overwhelming.

Yet, men with a clear vision of what they want — be it a girlfriend, many girlfriends, greater ability to socialize and engage members of the opposite sex, greater comfort in social situations — are usually successful at pushing themselves enough to reach the object of their desires. On the other hand, men with unclear and undefined objectives tend to quit their efforts to improve before those efforts ever really take off.

Before you decide to begin this journey into improving your luck with women, or even if you’ve been at it for a while, it’s important that you take a little time to know your path. You’re going to be putting a lot of time and effort and emotion into walking that path. To get the kind of long term dedication you need to truly be successful, you have to know what you want, and want it bad enough.

First things first… what got you interested in improving your skills with women in the beginning? Most men never bother to do what you are doing. They say,

«I’m fine where I am… I don’t need to get any better,»

despite the fact that they aren’t even close to being happy with their love lives. So what got you visited this blog?

If you’re like most men, it’s because you are dissatisfied with what you’re getting from your current relations with women and you want to take things up a notch. Maybe you want more action. Maybe you want to date higher quality girls. Maybe you are just dipping your toes into the dating pool, or have been out of it for a long time.

Each of these reasons is perfectly good as a starting point. Once you get beyond the starting point, if you want to really stay the course and achieve great success — whatever that means to you — you are going to need more than that.

Throughout life, most of us have a habit of trying new things because we are vaguely interested or think it would be cool to be good at that, then lose interest and motivation after a little while of trying our hand at it and end up abandoning it altogether. The reason why we move on rather than stick with it comes from a lack of investment — we fail to see what continued effort will accomplish, so we give up the ghost, so to speak.

Getting good with women is important. It is, perhaps, the most life-altering thing you can do for yourself. In order to truly get great with girls, you will make yourself into a better man than you ever envisioned you could be before you began the journey. It’s maybe the biggest possible motivation to improve. When you don’t have the kind of high quality girl that you know would make you happy, it creates an immense amount of drive to do what you need to do — to get her.

Knowing Your Path. Every man should answer these questions:

«Why do I want to get better with women?»

Do you have a deep love and passion for feminine beauty and elegance and you want more in your life? Are you looking at it pragmatically, knowing you’ll need loyal, stable woman by your side to reach your goals? Are you looking for deep fulfillment and immense connection with one perfect, amazing girl out there?

«What am I looking for in a woman?»

Crucial to keeping you focused. Is your ideal woman… traditional? Modern? Bubbling with high energy, or very calm and sophisticated? Do you want a girl who likes to go out all the time and party, or a girl to stay in and relax and watch a movie with? Draw her up in your mind, your ideal woman. The more detail, the better.

«How bad do I want this?»

Are you willing to do what it takes to get the results you want?

«Once I get what I want right now… then what?»

Hard to know the future, but what happens after you get what you want? Just a bit of thought into your new triumphs and successes goes a long way into getting the next stepping stone.

The most successful men the world all know their path. They know to their core what their mission is and what they want to accomplish. This is true in business, the social world, politics, art, almost everything.

The men who achieve incredible success are the ones who know, for certain, what they want. The 20 minutes it might take to spend thinking about this will save you hours of your life and bring you weeks and months closer to your goals.

Chase Amante

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