I remember back I had a job mounting tires in the back of an auto shop. Not the sexiest job in the world, but I was good at it, got promoted quickly and became a salesman and manager. I attended a number of sales and management training courses, and went on to pour my heart and soul into it and master the trade become a legendary all-star tire salesman. After I left high school and tire selling, I got on to college… but I still feel that I learned more from my years of tire sellin’ than I did at the big-name university.

The craziest part of tire selling: You learn to love objections. Because they give you an opportunity to let the customer know even more on what the great product you offer.

Bring this same mentality to meeting women. Objectives are good - great things. If you handle it correctly, the woman’s going to be more invested in you once you’ve addressed it than she was when she objected. After she objectives but then stays with you and keeps moving forwards, she’s made a greater commitment and becomes more attracted to you.

There are as many different objections as there are stars in the sky - that’s why it’s important you know the format for how to handle objections. There’s not enough witty lines in the world to get you ready for anything that can happen. Instead, I want help you unlock
your mind so you know how to handle this stuff on the fly. Here’s some things you might’ve heard before:

• “I don’t think you should do that.”
• “I don’t know if that’s right.”
• “I don’t know if I can go with you.”
• “I can’t stay much longer.”
• “I have to go soon.”
• “I can’t believe you just said that.”

Those all happen for different reasons. Yet, when they come up (and they will if you’re doing things right), you’ve now got a great opportunity to move even deeper into the connection. Objections filter out lesser men, leaving only the highest status men as her friends and lovers. None of these objections are absolute. Not even close.

She’s not saying the interaction’s over… she’s gauging your reaction to decide how to proceed and looking to you to help her decide what she wants to do. When you get a soft objection like the above, you can deal with it. There actually are absolute objections that look like this:

• “Stop.”
• “No!”

(Even those are subject to change with time… She still will often change her mind as her mood and the situations changes)

So, cool, you now know what kind of objections you can address. And you know that objections are good, they’re opportunities to man up
and lead. And if you man up and lead, you’re going to get better results.

One reason meeting women a lot of fun is how empowering it is to see lead a girl strongly to a positive result with the two of you - awesome romance or physicality. A girl can be uncertain about going with you to that after party, but because you encourage her and lead strongly, telling her, “Come on - We’re going this way, it’s not far,” she follows your lead and thanks you later on for a great night. This is the power of handling objections.

Here’s three best practices strategies for handling objections:

1. Ignore them entirely
2. Shrug them off
3. Lead strongly and take command

Here’s how to choose:

With objections like, “I don’t know about that,” or, “I don’t think that’s correct,” if you ignore them and continue the conversation as if no objection was raised, usually it will be forgotten. Change the subject using threadcutting, talk about something else, and never even acknowledge that there was any kind of issue - because really there wasn’t, she was just thinking out loud and try to decide how she felt about what you were saying or doing.

The second option is to address it briefly. A small shrug of the shoulder is often sufficient for many objections; a quick verbal dismissal usually takes care of the rest. Whem she says, “I don’t agree with that,” you say, “No worries,” or, “Cool, I hear you” and immediately continue with the conversation as if it was never interrupted.

The third option is a lot of fun. When she raises an objection about doing something, lead strongly! This isn’t the time to be wishy-washy. Take command. She’s not sure about accompanying you? “Come on, let’s go,” in balanced, even tonality. She’s hemming and hawing about doing something you asked her to do? “It’s no big deal, just go do it.” Use this strong leadership in response to situations where she’s pretty sure she wants to do something, but has the most minor reservations.

The interesting thing about objections is that if you pay them no mind, they are quickly forgotten. They are a woman’s means of
discovering how certain you are about what you are saying or doing. If you mistake tentative objections for actual, absolute objections, they will become them - because you lend credence to a girl’s objection by being affected by it. Demonstrate you’re a strong confident, resolute leader - wishy-washy men wash out. Lead strongly and you’ll appear sure of yourself and confident, and she’ll choose you!

As you’re continuing on with the interaction, if she doesn’t continue to voice the objection, she’s decide that she accepts your words or
actions. Accepted that you’re a strong leader, and she’ll follow you.

Objections, when it all comes down to it, are amazingly goood opportunities in an interaction - they let you show a girl what you’ve got and help her to decide that she likes you and wants to follow you.

Always remember: Men who are excellent with women and get the best women they want love objections.

Chase Amante

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