Perspective… an upscale Japanese restaurant with traditional décor, low tables, and a cool, pleasant ambiance. A sushi chef works magic with knives behind a counter, and small bottles of warm sake are spread around the room. Waitresses wear brightly colored kimonos and tend to couples discreetly, and a private, intimate ambiance fills the room.

A couple is led in by the hostess and seated. The man strides to the table at a solid 5′9 with a broad-shouldered build. His frame naturally holds weight - he puts on muscle easily enough, but struggles to keep the spare tire around his waist under control.

He’s nothing special in terms of natural looks - dark brown hair, green eyes, regular face with a beard. His clothes are nothing, outrageous, but they’re cut really well for him. A white linen shirt and pair of straight legged jeans, a couple cool accessories, and a pair of brown leather shoes.

The girl he’s with, on the other hand, was given a lot naturally - and worked to perfect it. Taller than the guy by a couple inches in her Gucci heels, long brown hair cascades down her back. She wears a white skirt that’s vaguely reminiscent of tennis cut halfway down her thigh, and a pink tanktop that hugs her figure tightly.

The couple orders, and goes through soup and sushi. They sip on tea and sake, eat pieces of sushi as they come out, and converse. The girl giggles every few minutes, and the guy smiles a sly smile. The check comes after the lovely meal, placed dead center in the middle of the table.

The guy speaks and smiles, and the girl reaches into her little handbag and takes a credit card and pays the hostess. The couple gather themselves up to leave, and the guy gives the girl a kiss on the cheek and whispers something to her.

Welcome to Lesson of the Vibe Mastery Series, provided to you for free courtesy of MasterTheVibe.com.

To act like a high status guy, it’s crucial to see yourself as a high status guy. Today, get imbued with the worldview of an
attractive man. It’s countercultural, controversial, and a little bit strange to most of the men in the world.

That’s a large factor why 5% of the men in society have 80% of the partners.

Quick Primer on Attraction

Women get attracted to you when three elements are present: Value, Attainability, and Compliance - which we call “VAC” for short. It’s a pretty simple concept at its root:

• Value is something that fills a conscious or subconscious need.
• Attainability is the idea that you have a chance at getting that value.
• Compliance is work or effort towards getting the value.

So far, I’ve laid out for you most of what you need to know about being a Socially Elite Man. The reason was this - most men are clueless as to what creates social status. Here’s the top three things:

1. Nonverbal Image Projection: You look, nonverbally, like you’re a powerful man. This includes the way you interact with your environment, walk, talk, make eye contact, touch, and so on.
2. Situational Relevance: You can keep conversations moving relevantly and fluidly. This is hard for many men - that’s what the article on threadcutting covered, and we’re always working to bring you more on the subject through the Master the Vibe Audio Series, podcasts, and however else we can.
3. Focus: What you’re focusing on mentally when you’re out.

If you’ve got those three down, then you’re looking like a high value guy, talking like a high value guy, and actually thinking like a high value guy. This means you’ve got 90% of the process of being a high value guy down pat. And if your focus is really solid, then many of the tiny little ‘micro’ elements such as facial ticks and looking around are going to largely sort themselves out.

You’re High Status - What Comes Next?

The good news is, if you’ve been studying, practicing, and applying what you’ve learned from the Vibe Mastery Series and Master the Vibe Audio Series, you’re in the top 10% of men in terms of value in the world. The other news is that it takes more than just value to get women.

You’ve already seen lots of high status men that couldn’t get women, right? There’s plenty. And that’s because they don’t understand that two-thirds of the equation is all about her and her emotions:

Letting her know that she has a legitimate shot at you, and then making her put in work and effort into the interaction.

We cover these concepts extensively in the Master the Vibe Audio Series, and make all efforts to point out when we’re getting compliance (such as getting her to buy a drink) or using attainability techniques (even simple ones like dropping “you’re such a good friend” can be powerful at the right times).

Now that you understand attraction better, let’s really imprint you with two of the most key mindsets of men that have more women than they know how to handle.

Standards - You’ve Got ‘Em, and She’s Got to Meet ‘Em

Socially Elite Men - the Top 5% of guys - have standards and hold women to them. The big this goes towards is compliance and getting her working, but it does help attraction across the board. Now, a lot of men who don’t have enough women in their lives will not attempt to hold women to any standards, not even that of basic respect and courtesy. This is a mistake.

By holding women to your standards, and letting them know exactly what you expect and like, you’re going to get more of what you want out of women and be bringing beautiful, charismatic, intelligent
gals into your life.

The Mindset: I Do Not Impress Women, I Search for Women That Impress Me

This runs contrary to what 95% of men are trying socially… but you can see how well their strategy is working by a quick glimpse at their social and romantic lives. It’s the difference between “Me
too!” and “I like that…”

The man without women in his life, and without standards, jumps on saying, “Me too!” if the girl says something he’s into. He wants to show her that he’s her kind of guy, and he’s just what she’s looking for.

Wrong strategy.

The socially successful man says, “I like that” - showing her that he approves of what she said, and she’s meeting his standards. This makes him much higher status, and as a bonus, women are actually more comfortable and take you more sincerely if you’re not trying to outwardly “win” them (which again, is a strategy that isn’t all that effective anyway).

So - get into thinking about what you like, and ask straightup if the women are those traits. Threadcut into questions about your standards, or just ask straightup. If you get a chance to hear me personally on the Master the Vibe Audio, you’re going to hear me asking, “Can you cook?” or “What do you like to cook?” within the first ten minutes of almost every interaction I have - it’s because it matters to me, and it’s a sign of really good things. Women who really like and enjoy cooking instead of “suffering through it” (or worse, not even knowing how!) like to express themselves and create wonderful experiences for people, can balance the practical, and are often healthier and more practical people. Women who cook are often less caught up in peer pressure (because, ironically, in the West it’s not “cool” to be into traditional homemaking activities between 17 and 25 as a woman - yikes!) and/or are raised in a family stable enough that one of the family members had time to teach her how to cook.

Cooking is a great predictor of traits I personally like in women - so I ask it often, situationally relevantly when possible, but occasionally just point blank. Get women meeting your standards.

Cooperative Dynamics - A Major Key to the Kingdom

You’ll find something in common with the most socially elite of men - they all engage in cooperative dynamics with other people. Here’s a quick primer:

There’s four ways to interact with people: Cooperatively, Competitively, Combatively, or Supplicative.

In order, from worst to best:

• Supplicative Dynamics: As a strategy for trying to get people to like you, the supplicative man sacrifices his ideals and spends time unhappy to try to make others happy. This is a very bad strategy.
• Combative Dynamics: The combative man engages others in fights, disagrees with them, and puts them down. He’s not particularly likable.

The above two strategies are the worst in the pantheon, and most men who are failing socially are employing one of those two. What most people transition to next is much better, but still falls far short of what could be…

• Competitive Dynamics: Competitive Dynamics are where a person tries to increase their status, value, or power by stripper at the expense of another person. It becomes a competition to see who can reach the top.

The reason a lot of men turn to competitive dynamics is because supplicating or fighting with women is like getting anything to eat after starving without food for three weeks. Basically, anything tastes good at that point. But that doesn’t mean that what you’re eating is the healthiest, most tasty, or most fulfilling food - and if you hadn’t just gotten done starving, you wouldn’t accept competitive dynamics because you could do much, much better with:

• Cooperative Dynamics: Cooperative Dynamics are where one person elevates their status by elevating the status of people around them. Men who make others around them better and higher status naturally gain even more status - these are the leaders of society, and these men become the most powerful socially and otherwise.

A little fun joking or teasing is great, but here’s the real scoop:

(This may run counter to everything you’ve heard on this topic before, so get ready)

You want to make all your joking, teasing, busting, stories, socializing, and everything you do when interacting with people cooperative - that means creating a win/win situation, where everyone can get ahead. Check out the difference between these two ways of interacting:

“Ugh, I can’t take you anywhere with me! You’re like a seventeen year old drinking for the first time”

This (competitive dynamic) is far superior to, say, supplicating and telling a woman you’ve never met before that you’re in love with her and want to buy her a sports car…

…but it really lacks compared to,

“Look at us - everyone in here is jealous of us. All the girls wish they were you, and all the guys wish they were me.”

That technique is one of the best ones at creating a cooperative dynamic with a supremely beautiful woman with you - people will be looking at you two (well, her, at least) and now you made it about the fact that they’re looking at both of you, jealously, because you’re both really high status. Win/win - both of your value goes up.

See you then,
Sebastian

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