There are two components to status. One is really building it, and the other is people perceiving it. If you’ve got both of these down, it’s going to help you be attractive to the kind of high status women you want. If you’ve only got one part of the equation down, it’s going to be more hit or miss. If you’ve got neither part down, you’re rarely going to be perceived as attractive by the highest quality of girls. So let’s get it down.

Men who meet women usually try to appear show off high status to the women they meet — guys focus on showing status in lots of different ways. This can be everything from showing off his expensive clothes or accessories, talking of adventures and exciting hobbies, discussing other lovers he’s had, seeming to be busy and scarce, displaying a high degree of knowledge and education in topics of interest to the woman in question, and so on. Lots of men try to fake this, especially when they’re starting out. But for max success, at some point you need to really become high status.

There’s millions of reasons why it’s worth it to become high status. You know most of them already.

And here’s one on the top of most men’s lists: by becoming really, legitimately high status, women will not only be impressed by the dazzle of your status, but they will actually know and believe that it’s real. No matter how good you are at showing status, there is always a subtle but significant difference between the way you act when you actually really possess that status and know it through and through, and when you are «faking it till you make it». If you really are a top, high quality male, you will naturally exude status to an extent, and when you show it it will be authentic and believable.

Some of the most common traits of powerful, high status people (both men and women) are resolve, determination, motivation, and pride. A high status person goes for what he wants, is not dissuaded by others, and dismisses behavior he does not like, even to the point of dismissing people themselves if they repeatedly behave in ways he does not like. A high status person is inclusive, yet selective. He is friendly with everyone, and gives status to all, but gives more status to those who are more valuable. Status attracts status.

But those are things that high status people do. How does one become truly high status then?

First, understand that almost everyone has some status in some circles. Some men are regarded and treated well in certain circles. Compare: Guys into punk music, bodybuilders, intellectuals. Respected in different circles.

These types of «Specific Value», or status, attract very specific subsets of women and push away others. Other men focus more on developing their «Universal Value», which raises their status across the board — traits like charm, wit, leadership, confidence, which appeal to all women. It’s good to have a mix of both. In general, universal will help you well with a broader range of women, and specific will help you a great deal with a very specific type of woman (it’s always good to make sure that the kind of specific status you have is tailored to the kind of woman you want to attract — or else you may have the wrong kind of specific status and be attracting a different kind of girl than what you want!).

Second, you can focus on increasing the amount of status you have in at least a few different fields. Here are some ways to increase your status across the board:

• Correct your posture so that you look strong, tall, and proud.
• Show passion. About anything, people respect and admire the drive and purpose of someone passionate.
• Learn a little about a lot — start learning about things that you don’t know much about. You don’t have to know a whole lot, a little goes a long way. You’ll find more connections and become sharper in all your interactions, and you’ll be able to connect with more people by knowing a bit about their interests. By knowing about things the men and women you meet in the world are passionate about, they’re going to be excited to open up to you more.
• Get educated. The world is full of junk — TV news is an example. When is the last time you learned something that really helped your life by watching the news on TV? Instead of spending a half hour listening to news anchors fret about the latest dread disease that has killed four people in Vietnam and is likely to be the next planetary scourge, read Dale Carnegie’s How to Win Friends and Influence People or Napoleon Hill’s Think and Grow Rich or Matt Ridley’s The Red Queen or Richard Dawkins’ The Selfish Gene (and everything written by us here at PUA Life, natch).
• Never let yourself feel «beaten», whether in a game or a sport or a discussion or a competition or a debate or… anything. If someone bests you at something, congratulate them. If you feel beaten or resent the winner of something, a few things happen — first, you won’t be able to learn from them. Second, shockingly, you actually take a hit to your testosterone when you feel «beaten» — scary thought. There’s only two outcomes — success and learning.
• Inspire yourself. Print out a sheet with everything that you want on it. Pictures are much better than words, so use pictures. Use Google Image Search and get pictures from there. Not pictures of what you think you want or what would be nice to have, but what you actually want, the things that make you burn a little on the inside when you think about having them. Look at that poster every day, at least twice a day. Once when you get up, once before you go to
  bed. Never forget what it is that you want and you’re working towards.
• Take over your surroundings — Take a different route home from work. Eat something for dinner you’ve never tried before. Check out new shops and parks and places you’ve never visited before. Become an explorer. The more you know about your surroundings, the better position you are in in your town. Instead of it being some town that you live in, it becomes your town.
• Surround yourself with people you want to be like. This is huge. Critical! It’s completely massively significant. The people you spend time with are the people you grow to be like. Look at your friends. Do you want to live the life they’re on the path towards? If the answer is no, get to meeting new people! You need to make connections with people who make you feel empowered and unconstrained and excited about what you can accomplish. Get ambitious, interesting, capable friends. They will challenge you to do great things.

As you become higher status naturally, you will begin to notice changes in your behavior that are almost impossible to imitate. All these things are extremely powerful and evident to those around you, as small as they seemingly are. People will comment on it — they will comment on how you are changing. They will start to notice that you seem stronger, and they will begin to defer to you more. They will want to please you more.

You will want to surround yourself with stronger, ever higher status people then because you will need to be challenged more to continue growing. It becomes a runaway cycle, with your status spiraling upwards, as you become higher and higher status and seek to provide more and more status to the others who deserve it and whom you can tell are ready for and receptive to it. You will also find that once you start really focusing on increasing your status, after a time people will begin entering your life who can help you get there.

Becoming high status is all about seizing opportunities when they present themselves, and creating opportunities when there aren’t any at the moment.

The more and varied exposure you have to different things, the easier it is to find things that you like and enjoy that you might never have realized that you did. You will begin to find it easier to determine the direction you want to take your life. As you bring more things into your life and make it fuller and richer, you will become a fuller and richer person. You will become high status.

Chase Amante

Source: theApproach Seduction Workshops

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